And I'm glad that I made sense so late at night!
Don't give up hope on your sister though if you don't have to. Focus on the other members of your family who do support you or at least are neutral. Bring them closer to you and your partner.
My parents did the same thing that your sister is doing at first. They ignored everything. Denied everything. Wouldn't bring him up to save a burning school filled with children (ok maybe I'm being a bit dramatic). And, to be honest, I'll tell you that they are not where I want them to be yet either. They are not comfortable now with the whole shebang. But they acknowledge him as a person after a lot of hard work. And there have absolutely been times where I just have to cool off and leave them alone for a month or so (which was particularly easy when I was in college).
If your sister feels like you are pushing her, she will pull away, maybe for good. Just take your time. Build your allies. And most importantly live your life and be happy. Don't dwell on the negative. Stay positive! And talk to your partner too and keep him informed about how the issue is in your head, what your goals are, and how he might help you proceed. Believe me, I've had more arguments with my boyfriend over misunderstandings and misconceptions between what I think and what he thinks about something than any other topic. For me the hardest thing to learn was remembering that little voice in my head that keeps ticking away and commenting about an issue after we finished talking about it is not something he can hear too!! You'd be surprised how far behind you can leave him if your mind keeps dwelling on an issue. LOL!
Maybe the day will come when she will come around. And maybe they day will come when you decide that it's no longer worth your effort and pain to try to bring her around. Either way there are loads of people in the same boat as you. Loads! And we're all pulling for each other!
As for me it's bedtime on the east coast (not to cut it short, but I have work in about six hours and should get some sleep)... If you ever want to talk feel free to PM me or find me lurking in the forum! Plus I know there are tons of people here with good ideas too... just not all DU3 adjusted yet!
All the best,
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