I have family in Indiana and some of us have had a major falling out because of politics. My older brother who now lives in KY used to call my Mother every weekend for the past oh, 25-30 yrs and after the election in Nov 2012, just stopped. Cold. After a few weeks my Mother called him and he basically said, I don't want to talk to you. WTF? She asked why but he wouldn't say. It took about 6 more months for him to admit that the election was the reason. He was furious that Obama won reelection and said that he was disappointed that she voted for him.
And my 82 yr old mother took it hard. Very hard.
We never discussed politics at home growing up and I didn't know until then that my Mother was a liberal. Apparently, from facebook, he realized that Mother was voting for Obama (oddly, I've checked her history) and has not been in touch with her much since. On Mother's day and her birthday, he would send a one line email with Happy (whatever). Totally excluded her from anything more about his 20 something yr old kids, etc. Just gone. My teabagger sister at least has the decency not to discuss politics around my Mother anymore and still keeps in touch. They had many fights about politics and my sister is another nutbag that I refuse to communicate with.
My younger liberal brother and I are dumbstruck. This is the oddest behavior we've ever seen from this guy and we knew he was conservative (to a degree because he still attends church and sent his kids to catholic schools) but we had no idea that he was a racist pig who would hurt his Mother like that. We haven't spoken to him since and my Mother still cries when he is brought up in conversations etc. I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive my brother for hurting my Mother so deeply at the end of her life. She did nothing wrong.
Whatever you do, be true to yourself but you have to ask yourself, is this b.s. legislation reason enough to divorce your father? Seriously, if you don't live in Indiana anymore (or ever), how does it affect you? I don't live there anymore and I am glad I have moved on but the rest of my extended family is hurting because of one of my siblings actions toward our parent. Is it worth it?
Good luck in your decision.
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