Gender fluid?

[LostOne4Ever]

4. Not a single day has gone by since the 7th grade that I have not wanted to be the opposite sex

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[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]But, in spite of this, and much like you, I have only experienced "attraction*" toward people opposite of my assigned birth sex, and I fit well within my perceived gender. I don't feel as though I am in the wrong body and there are aspects of my current sex that I do like.

I just strongly identify with the other sex, much more so than the sex I was born. So much so that when I was young puberty terrified me and caused me massive amounts of dread. I didn't want to change in that way.

Also, much like you, I created many online personas in games where I almost always play the opposite sex. Though, I always end up telling people my birth sex, I did fool several people and something about that made me happy. I wasn't really even trying to fool them either.

The whole thing was bit confusing. Then not too long ago an online friend came out to me that they were going to transition to become a woman. I told her my own issues with gender and that I would support her and if she ever needed someone to talk to, I would be there for her.

We chatted and being the geeks we are got to talking about comics and one in particular. When she brought that up, I told her that was one of my favorites. I then told her, that part of the reason I loved that comic was that I wished I could be like the main character and switch gender at will.

At that moment it was like a light bulb went off inside my head. That was exactly what I wanted and there was a name for something like it: Gender fluid.

I think that term just fits with me, and is the one I identify with currently. For the first time, I feel as if I have a real understanding of my gender and orientation. That I finally am coming to understand myself and that makes me happy [/font]


*By attraction I do not mean a sexual attraction. I don't have those to anyone. Rather, as a hetero-romantic asexual I only have romantic and aesthetic attractions to people.