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Behind the Aegis

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46. Congrats on your marriage!

Sat May 23, 2015, 02:15 AM

May 2015

Fun, huh? After almost 13 years, my husband and I got married last November when it became legal here in Oklahoma.

I am sorry for the issues with your mother. I am fortunate my parents and my three brothers are accepting, even my extended family is. My grandmother loves my husband and called him "one of the best people to ever come into your life." His family, despite living two hours away...well, they don't say anything and neither does he. Such is life. They have come to the house a few times, but...it is difficult to explain. It's a case of "don't ask, don't tell".

I hope you dinner goes well. Revel in your happiness and love, sometimes, when people see how normal we actually are, prejudices start to fall away. As difficult as this may be to hear, focus on those who love you unconditionally. You have done your job, it is up to your mother to make changes, not you. It doesn't make it any less painful, until you realize how many people already love you.

I wish you the best in this new chapter of your life!

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My mom finally said it clearly... [View all] knowledgeispwr May 2015 OP

This makes me so sad, and angry. There is SO much love for you from so many who randys1 May 2015 #1

Thank you! knowledgeispwr May 2015 #16

...... daleanime May 2015 #2

Thanks! knowledgeispwr May 2015 #14

My best to you and your husband. peace13 May 2015 #3

Agreed Sherman A1 May 2015 #6

Thanks to you both. knowledgeispwr May 2015 #13

x 3 Omaha Steve May 2015 #23

Thanks for sharing, elleng May 2015 #4

Thanks... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #12

This is one of the saddest things I know. leftofcool May 2015 #5

I have done that, from time to time, although less so in the past couple of years knowledgeispwr May 2015 #11

Nope, not Christianity leftieNanner May 2015 #29

Could your mother be under the strong influence of a clergyperson? No Vested Interest May 2015 #45

Possibly, though I don't really know. knowledgeispwr May 2015 #47

Re Bush in 2000 - Some voted for Bush because they coudn't get beyond No Vested Interest May 2015 #53

I agree that bitterness won't help at all. knowledgeispwr May 2015 #56

Does she eat pork, or shellfish? Does she wear mixed fabrics, or gold jewellery? Electric Monk May 2015 #7

I'm not sure how strictly she follows it now... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #9

Here's a nice flowchart, perfect for your mom, from today's 'Toons (thanks n2doc!) Electric Monk May 2015 #59

Heh, funny! knowledgeispwr May 2015 #61

I don't understand why people cannot just be happy their loved one is happy Skittles May 2015 #8

Definitely inexcusable n/t knowledgeispwr May 2015 #10

You did all you could, no one could ask for more LostOne4Ever May 2015 #15

I know how difficult this is.... MaggieD May 2015 #17

I don't understand people who choose... well, anything actually, over family. lumberjack_jeff May 2015 #18

People down here preach that crap... awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #58

I'm glad your Dad is supportive. Your mother's attitude is likely hurtful to him No Vested Interest May 2015 #19

My mom has met my husband... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #35

This is so sad, and so unfortunate. SheilaT May 2015 #20

...... mahannah May 2015 #21

Thanks Thespian2 May 2015 #22

I am so glad you have found happiness with your partner! logosoco May 2015 #24

You sound like a great mom! knowledgeispwr May 2015 #36

Congrats on your marriage Evergreen Emerald May 2015 #25

I have seen parents cut off children for the worst reasons.. mountain grammy May 2015 #26

It's good that your grandfather eventually came around... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #37

As a mother, I can't think of any reason that I would cut off my children mountain grammy May 2015 #42

I wish you and your husband all the best. Ilsa May 2015 #27

(((knowledgeispwr))) Solly Mack May 2015 #28

I am so sorry for you. TNNurse May 2015 #30

I do wonder how my parents address the situation between them... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #39

I am so sorry as I know it must hurt KT2000 May 2015 #31

I'm so sorry for your loss passiveporcupine May 2015 #32

I understand that this may be long term. knowledgeispwr May 2015 #40

I wish you well NikolaC May 2015 #33

You son is a lucky guy... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #41

It seems to me rock May 2015 #34

To lose a parent's love brer cat May 2015 #38

Congratulations on your marriage and your accepting dad and somewhat supportive sister! About RKP5637 May 2015 #43

I also view religion with a grain of salt... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #50

Maybe you should ask her "Who told you you didn't approve?" lostnfound May 2015 #44

"God" / "God's Word", "The Bible"... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #49

"Focus on the parts that say to love one another and to be forgiving and humble." lostnfound May 2015 #54

Congrats on your marriage! Behind the Aegis May 2015 #46

Thank you, it is fun! knowledgeispwr May 2015 #48

Only so much you can do HassleCat May 2015 #51

Nearly passed you by ( After all, it's an "old story"in LGBT-dom.) but I'm really glad I read this... Smarmie Doofus May 2015 #52

Oh I don't expect miracles... knowledgeispwr May 2015 #55

I am sorry to hear this... awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #57

I have a similar story so I can understand the frustration of it all. Fearless May 2015 #60

What is your situation like now, if you don't mind sharing? knowledgeispwr May 2015 #62

Whelp... Fearless May 2015 #63

Thanks for sharing. knowledgeispwr May 2015 #65

Happy to. Fearless May 2015 #66

I'm so sorry it came down this way. Stay well, stay yourself. pinto May 2015 #64