My mom finally said it clearly...

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47. Possibly, though I don't really know.

Mom has always been religiously conservative, so much so that she voted for Bush in 2000 (blegh! - maybe she fell for that 'compassionate conservative nonsense) but then voted for Kerry and Obama.

While, like I mentioned, Dad has been generally supportive, I don't see him as being able to really influence Mom in this way. I remember, while growing up, Mom would dutifully take me and my sister to church and Dad would sit out. He was never very religious so it's doubtful to me that he could reach her on this.

The marriage is an exclamation point on the fact that my mother thinks being gay is wrong. She called a family meeting several years ago because I upset my sister by coming out to her. At that meeting she declared it wasn't "truth" (in an absolutist, religious sense). I told her repeating something over and over doesn't make it true. So Mom has already been distant. It didn't just start with the marriage, she objected to me moving in with my then boyfriend to an apartment, she didn't anything really when we bought a house a few years ago, never visited or came to the housewarming and ignored our engagement.