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TigressDem

(5,121 posts)
83. You need a better publicist. (wink)
Sat Feb 26, 2022, 12:14 PM
Feb 2022

So if YOU are the only one calling yourself a failure. STOP IT.

A lawyer should not be their own defendant and a person shouldn't be their own judge, jury and executioner squad. STOP.

A doctor shouldn't operate on themselves. So STOP tearing yourself apart.

You are a nice person to others, so treat yourself with the same respect.

Don't ASSUME those people ran in fear or revulsion from you. EVEN if they did, it's THEIR stupidity, not yours. A lot of people are small minded and don't choose to get their head our of their rears long enough to remedy the situation.

Don't BE that person. Don't be intimated by those people. With their head in said position, you can definitely out run them if needed.

How big is your dog? Even if he is the nicest pooch in the world if he was drooling those ladies might have thought their dogs looked like appetizers and just didn't want to risk it.

My son had a bully breed, stratfroshire I think it was called, basically taller and leaner than most pits but still with the big old mug grin. He was trained to be a family pet. Kids could put their hands in the dog's food bowl. He would bark or growl but not anything more. When the oldest kid was 2 years old he smacked the dog right on the nut sack. Dog turned around planted the vulnerable spot on the floor and behaved like a gentleman.

Still he was strong. Pulled a car over ice in the winter. About 10 feet, but still. I was taking him home after Christmas to Iron Range and we stopped at the last rest stop in Minnesota to let him go potty and he kinda forgot I was walking him. I had to sit my butt down in the snow and got a ride for about 5 feet before he looked back and grinned. Oh yeah, you're here. Doh.

I gave them a kitten for Christmas one year and the dog was being introduced, but I knew my son was doing it wrong by the way the dog was looking at the kitten. "STOP!" I shouted.

"What?!" my son asked.

"Remember the hamster?"

"Oh, yeah." He said covering up the kitten and standing up.

"What about the hamster?" His wife asked.

"You didn't TELL HER?" I deadpanned.

"NO"

I took the cat and went and had a chat with the dog. "Rawcoe, this is MY CAT. I am letting you guys have this cat, but he is NOT a chew toy or a snack. Do you understand me dog?" He had his head somewhat down and submissive and nodded. I took my hand to let him sniff the smell of the cat and me and then pet him and let him sniff all the smells together. "You eat this cat I will rip you apart, dog. You understand me?" He nodded again.

My son objected. But I told him, "If you hadn't shown him the hamster and made all those cutesy little noises and ignored his excitement at his upcoming snack, I wouldn't have to be like this." Poor hamster jumped away in fear from my son's hands and was gone in one gulp.

The cat grew up as the brother of the dawg and they were SO happy together it was wonderful.


BTW --- ONLINE MEETINGS = Anonymous help

ACA is open to anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family. Now no one gets instructions when their kids are born, so most anyone qualifies. But you can also look at the literature and see if there is any hope for you in their ideas. AND if not, there is probably a 12 Step group, free and anonymous for just about any issue you can think of. So don't despair.


https://adultchildren.org/meeting-search/


Mental Health group NAMI has online support. I haven't gone to their groups, but check out their literature and see if it seems helpful.
**NOTE I know people who go and have found them helpful, just have not personally gone there. I did MDMDA back when it was around.

https://namimn.org/support/nami-minnesota-support-groups/



DON'T GIVE UP.

PUT ON YOUR OWN AIR MASK BEFORE HELPING OTHERS. You can't help if you can't breathe.


Ta'

Tigress

This may be it [View all] OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 OP
Please know you are not alone. MyMission Jan 2022 #1
Speaking as someone who lost a fiance to suicide femmedem Jan 2022 #2
My uncle had to hire a Social Security disability attorney Bluethroughu Jan 2022 #3
My sister had to do this. blueinredohio Jan 2022 #14
The do NOT automatically reject everyone the first time. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2022 #16
I agree with this. My mother was initially rejected rsdsharp Jan 2022 #18
Also, is your car fixable if you had the funds? femmedem Jan 2022 #4
Ie expect many DU's would contribute to a Go Fund 3Hotdogs Jan 2022 #5
Me too. I would. n/t femmedem Jan 2022 #8
+1 chowder66 Jan 2022 #34
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #6
Sending you my best DU vibes Wicked Blue Jan 2022 #7
Set up a GoFundMe Caliman73 Jan 2022 #9
A lot of us would be willing to help if you do a GoFundMe. It can really add up. kysrsoze Jan 2022 #15
My mom wrote a note telling all of us we would be way better off. She was wrong. LizBeth Jan 2022 #10
What's the problem with the car? mahatmakanejeeves Jan 2022 #11
(((HUGS))) vanlassie Jan 2022 #12
You can appeal the SS. Mz Pip Jan 2022 #13
I just got an attorney for my appeal XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #21
Yes and with a win, get backpay mzmolly Jan 2022 #33
Money is the smallest thing one can give, and sometimes it is everything. blm Jan 2022 #17
No one will be better off with you gone. You are needed. You must FIGHT for your benefits. LoisB Jan 2022 #19
You are not alone Ferryboat Jan 2022 #20
No one would be better off. We will help you. Please set up go fund me. onecaliberal Jan 2022 #22
+1 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2022 #23
Call 1--800-273-8255 and ask for help. sinkingfeeling Jan 2022 #24
It's not a useless life. Baitball Blogger Jan 2022 #25
A giant DU meetup XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #30
DU keeps me sane too. Baitball Blogger Jan 2022 #31
I wish I was home. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #40
My doctors here are great XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #42
Ahh... I love Long Beach! OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #45
It's such bullshit XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #46
Minnesota is a hard place for those not used to it iemanja Jan 2022 #51
If you return to NC let me know. JanMichael Jan 2022 #57
Have you reached out to the disability community for help with Social Security? thucythucy Jan 2022 #26
How did you get tricked into moving there? BlackSkimmer Jan 2022 #27
Because we were led to believe that it would be an 'all for one' scenario. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #41
If you've cared for people, made them smile, comforted them - you are a useful person electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #28
I have no idea if I have done any of that. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #43
You are loved and needed cally Jan 2022 #29
Depression lies to you. Your mate is not better off without you. mzmolly Jan 2022 #32
OldBaldy1701E, you are not alone. crickets Jan 2022 #35
Stay with us Baldy budkin Jan 2022 #36
I'm in Minnesota and suffer from depression iemanja Jan 2022 #37
They could not help because of our housing situation. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #44
Did you already call them? iemanja Jan 2022 #48
I should add iemanja Jan 2022 #50
What that will 'trigger' is a SWAT team kicking in my door. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #62
Well, that's a different matter iemanja Jan 2022 #63
Don't do anything rash, Baldy. roamer65 Jan 2022 #38
UPDATE for those who might be interested. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #39
To your reply back to me 1) you're a DU member so you've been helpful to us DU'rs! electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #47
Dear, dear Baldy. Does your husband know you are so close to ending it? femmedem Jan 2022 #49
I used to believe in that social contract as well. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #54
I believe femmedem has a good point... "am I not my brother's(& sister's) keeper?" electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #52
I forgot to add OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #53
I'm glad it helps a little to see so many people rooting for you and trying to help. femmedem Jan 2022 #55
I am glad you mentioned that. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #64
please set up a gofundme Skittles Jan 2022 #56
What's the issue with the car? hamsterjill Jan 2022 #58
It was the starter. It failed. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #65
Hee hee. Like you, I am female and know a little about cars hamsterjill Jan 2022 #66
Thank you very much. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #68
I'm an idiot! hamsterjill Jan 2022 #69
Got it. 👍 Keep hanging in there OB! electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #70
That sounds tricky with your car problem ... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #67
Please please stay with us berniesandersmittens Jan 2022 #59
And, who is paying for it? (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #61
I know what you're going through vercetti2021 Jan 2022 #60
Checking in on you, OB. Pleas give us a "hello". electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #71
Hello OldBaldy1701E Jan 2022 #72
Ty for popping in... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #73
How are you doing, OB? dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #74
Ahh... my favorite Little Feat song... OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #75
This message was self-deleted by its author dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #76
The only way I keep from killing myself is... I procrastinate my way out of it. TigressDem Feb 2022 #77
Thank you so much for your post. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #78
You are welcome. TigressDem Feb 2022 #79
It sounds as if you are doing way better than I am. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #80
It's easy to compare our insides to someone else's outsides and think they are doing better. TigressDem Feb 2022 #81
Thank you again. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #82
You need a better publicist. (wink) TigressDem Feb 2022 #83
Well, let me explain. OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #84
I hear how hard it is. TigressDem Mar 2022 #85
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