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29. I've been where you are. Here is some advice.
Sun Sep 18, 2022, 03:25 PM
Sep 2022

I am crying as I write this.

Ask yourself what would you have done if it was you or your child?

You of course would have done everything medically possible to save that life. That is exactly what you did. Your precious dog would have suffered grievously from that cancer. You followed sound medical advice. There are so often unforeseen medical problems. I can attest to this. On my farm, it's so common. My heart has lain in pieces more times than I care to mention.

You have to forgive yourself for your mistakenly perceived wrong doing. You gave your precious Riley a wonderful life with you. He had everything. That wonderful life is what he knew and enjoyed with you. Animals don't fear death, so please don't humanize what he felt. My vets have reminded me often that animals are fortunate that way.

Vercetti, you have a loving heart and Riley was loved to end of his sweet life. That's so much more than most of us get, animal or human. I grieve with you.

Riley went to rainbow bridge [View all] vercetti2021 Sep 2022 OP
I am so sorry. It's not your fault. Please don't blame yourself MerryHolidays Sep 2022 #1
Its mine vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #19
Oh honey you are not to blame! redwitch Sep 2022 #2
I just can't vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #58
My heart is with you. Silver Gaia Sep 2022 #3
You did your best. None of us including your Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #4
I'm so sorry, vercetti2021. femmedem Sep 2022 #5
Oh, god, I know how you feel. I'm so sorry for both you and Riley. Biophilic Sep 2022 #6
You did the best you could based on the available evidence Farmer-Rick Sep 2022 #7
There are so many things we can't control - please don't blame yourself!! Siwsan Sep 2022 #8
So sorry MacKasey Sep 2022 #9
You did the very best you could for him with the info & resources avail to you. SheltieLover Sep 2022 #10
I'm broken vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #14
All cats die eventually. raging moderate Sep 2022 #45
Dog vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #46
Oh, sorry. Riley surely knew you were trying to help him. raging moderate Sep 2022 #51
I am so sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Sep 2022 #11
I tried vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #64
I'm very sorry for your loss. There must have been something else that the vet sinkingfeeling Sep 2022 #12
I don't know vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #21
So sorry for your loss..sounds like you had a plan, and it failed. Not your fault PortTack Sep 2022 #13
I failed him vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #15
With cancer, if you didn't do surgery, it would have spread. LisaL Sep 2022 #37
I'm so sorry. barbtries Sep 2022 #16
I'm sorry for your loss. Please don't blame yourself; brer cat Sep 2022 #17
As a former nurse, I know human patients also have variable outcomes after surgery, even for Ziggysmom Sep 2022 #18
Should have consider the options vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #20
We can find a reason to blame ourselves no matter what we do... Earthrise Sep 2022 #22
I don't wanna use facebook for it vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #60
Please don't think it was your fault. You did everything possible badhair77 Sep 2022 #23
Cancer or pain vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #28
The cancer may have weakened him badhair77 Sep 2022 #31
You did what you thought was best for him. You could not have known the outcome CousinIT Sep 2022 #24
I feel I could have done better vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #27
If you did the wrong thing ... Jeebo Sep 2022 #25
Oh my sweet friend, vercetti UpInArms Sep 2022 #26
Yeah vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #61
I've been where you are. Here is some advice. rockbluff botanist Sep 2022 #29
If it were me? vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #62
This message was self-deleted by its author rockbluff botanist Sep 2022 #30
Please do not blame yourself. murielm99 Sep 2022 #32
I do vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #33
He is not suffering anymore. LisaL Sep 2022 #36
I know he isn't vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #56
I'm soooo sorry.... did the best you could for him. alittlelark Sep 2022 #34
It's not your fault. LisaL Sep 2022 #35
I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 Sep 2022 #38
Feels like I did vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #59
Just a little while ago, i was telling my friends of Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #39
I am sure Riley does not think it is your fault. I am so sorry. LoisB Sep 2022 #40
You did what you had to do, you tried to help him! Am so very sorry, I know it will take time to secondwind Sep 2022 #41
It's hard to see what might have happened MadameButterfly Sep 2022 #42
Grief is long lasting with me vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #52
Everyone here has said it much more eloquently than I can... Mozeltov Cocktail Sep 2022 #43
ask Riley to forgive you, and you know he will, cause that's what dogs do. ❤️ IcyPeas Sep 2022 #44
I hope he knows vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #47
that's okay, we are all sending you lots of love IcyPeas Sep 2022 #49
I hope vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #63
So sorry... You were there for him ramapo Sep 2022 #48
I'm so sorry vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #57
Oh, hon, it will take a long time before you forgive yourself, slightlv Sep 2022 #50
I don't know if I will vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #55
Riley is a great name. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #53
ASCPA named him vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #54
How are you doing? niyad Sep 2022 #65
Still not very good vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #66
I can only imagine how truly difficult this is. But please know that you niyad Sep 2022 #67
So sorry. Cancer is a monstrous thing. I_UndergroundPanther Sep 2022 #68
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