Hilarious, "White People Whitesplain Whitesplaining"

[Kind of Blue]

32. I think you're missing the point of the video

that's brilliantly illustrated, simply: if you want to be an ally, don't speak over those who you choose to support. Also, my points, don't try to redefine well-studied/well-researched terms, i.e. racism, so the focus becomes you. Don't coin new terms such as reverse racism that does not exist, so the focus becomes you. Those are not actions of solidarity. We'd rather focus on disparities but we're constantly fighting two fronts, supremacy and your feelings, in order to move on. It's more about impact less so than good-hearted conditional intent.

So please educate yourself. There is a ton of information online about how to be a good ally.

My last point about being an ally is to just listen. You misunderstood the message here and perhaps unconsciously use passive-aggressive phrases such as "Not cutting you down," "chip on your shoulders," "rude" even when "bonded." But I can't do the emotional work, friends can't expect more emotional energy from us to soothe hurt feelings because it's exhausting when on a daily basis I say a prayer before I step out of my front door.