She's a much better listener than anyone I know. I have people I've known for years, about whom I know next to nothing in terms of their deeper lives, and after my wife meets them, she knows pretty much everything, who their parents were, who their siblings were, the issues in their relationships, their educations, hopes and dreams, everything.
I recall once, when I had a difficult and sometimes secretive boss, for whom I had little sympathy. My wife met her at a company beach party, and afterwards I had more sympathy for my boss's personality because I understood whence she came. (I still made sure to get another job though.)
When I met my wife, she was extremely beautiful in the physical sense - the deeper real sense of her beauty was then unknown to me and to everyone else - the object of much puerile male attention (including mine) among the STEM guys. When I worked up the courage to talk to her, I immediately felt put at ease, and in a short time, she knew pretty much everything about me that mattered, stuff I generally didn't tell everyone or anyone. As she was dating someone else (of course) at the time, romance was initially off the table, but nonetheless we quickly became good friends, and years later, lovers, and seriously, in no time, it was no longer about her looks but about her warmth and emotional generosity.
Decades later, it still is.
She sure can listen; what's more, she sure can care about others.
Me, I have a big mouth. I could do better doing more listening and less talking, but over the long term, I do get along. I'm probably way to old to change now. Anyway, I have her to keep me in line.
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