I did not want to post, but my grief has overcome me

[LostOne4Ever]

3. All I can tell you

Is that our loved ones live on in our memories, and so long as we remember them and celebrate their lives and legacies a part of them will always be here with us.

I feel that our grief is a testament to how greatly we loved them and how they affected our lives. As painful as it may be, I believe that grief is important part of saying goodbye to our loved ones while at the same time keeping that piece of themselves that they invested in you alive.

As skeptics, we are not afforded the comfort of thinking we will see our lost loved ones again. But I personally would rather deal with my grief and truly get the chance to fully express how much they meant to me than to engage in a false hope of seeing them again. I feel, that this false hope cheapens the loss and to a degree denies us the chance to truly say goodbye. I would rather wade through the pain and truly express my grief than do that. The pain means that it was real and that our love was meaninful.

I didn't know your sister, but based on your grief I must assume that you loved each other very much. I feel confident that if she were still alive she would be touched by how much you loved her and would want to comfort you. My advise would to take solace in that and never to forget her.

I wish there was more I could say to help comfort you.