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Wed Nov 22, 2023, 07:44 AM Nov 2023

Lost my only Brother on 21 November, 2023 [View all]

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After suffering a massive heart attack, loss of blood to the brain on Sunday night, my 50 year old brother(the only boy after 3 sisters) died in a Sacramento, California hospital. My only remaining sister was with him as he took his last breaths. His name was John Anthony Horvat.

Prior to that, I was involved in a conference call with the Doctor, my sister, and my daughter that the only option was to gently let him go because the prognosis of ever recovering was not going to happen. But the story of a troubled man began in 2000 when our father died. It was not a good death and it hit him hard, as he was to take care of our mother. In 2013, our mother died in a Reno, Hospital. Again, not a good death. Once again, a hard hit reality and a journey to the depths of mental and physical damage that would take its toll through alcoholism and addiction to pain killers. (Another long story).

Now my Brother, John, is in a place where there is no more pain and worry. He is joined with our parents and sister, Deborah. My relationship with him was strained for the past 2 years when I last spoke to him, letting him know that I unable to loan him a large amount of money. All throughout those 2 years, I prayed for him, for good health mentally and physically.

I will miss my Brother. In February, I plan to go out to California for a celebration of his life with my Sister, my daughter, Family, and friends when it would be his Birthday. Perhaps take his ashes to the Reno-Sparks area to spread in the canyons near the place he lived with my late mother where the wild Mustangs would graze down by the Truckee River at that time of the year. He loved the horses.

Goodbye, John. I will see him again and we will have much to catch up on.

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Lost my only Brother on 21 November, 2023 [View all] ProudMNDemocrat Nov 2023 OP
My sympathy to you and the family on the loss livetohike Nov 2023 #1
I am very sorry Easterncedar Nov 2023 #2
Im so sorry for your loss. onecaliberal Nov 2023 #3
... 2naSalit Nov 2023 #4
Sorry to have that happen to you. Wish the best for you and your family marked50 Nov 2023 #5
I'm an only child and always wished for a sibling. tavernier Nov 2023 #6
I'm so sorry. Scrivener7 Nov 2023 #7
My brother died this year, too PJMcK Nov 2023 #8
My condolences on your loss as well. ProudMNDemocrat Nov 2023 #22
I am so sorry for your loss and for the difficulties and stresses Tanuki Nov 2023 #9
I am sorry. murielm99 Nov 2023 #10
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel ms liberty Nov 2023 #11
Oh goodness Ms Liberty, I'm sorry you are grieving AllyCat Nov 2023 #15
Thank you. n/t ms liberty Nov 2023 #24
Hugs to you, Ms.Liberty ProudMNDemocrat Nov 2023 #23
Very true. Thank you. n/t ms liberty Nov 2023 #25
Holding you in my heart for consolation. Every life is a blessing. n/t TygrBright Nov 2023 #12
I am so sorry for your loss. LoisB Nov 2023 #13
I'm so sorry for your loss. AllyCat Nov 2023 #14
Sorry for your loss. Take care y paz. RestoreAmerica2020 Nov 2023 #16
Holding you in my heart. Goddessartist Nov 2023 #17
Beautiful testimonial to a beloved sibling cilla4progress Nov 2023 #18
I am so sorry for your loss. 💙 sheshe2 Nov 2023 #19
Hail The Traveler! Deep State Witch Nov 2023 #20
Condolences Lilaclady Nov 2023 #21
So sorry to read this. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 2023 #26
I am so sorry for your loss. BoomaofBandM Nov 2023 #27
Hugs to you as well. ProudMNDemocrat Nov 2023 #29
Sorry to hear IbogaProject Nov 2023 #28
I am so sorry AmBlue Nov 28 #30
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