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fujiyama

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46. I have friends of different political stripes

Tue Oct 23, 2012, 01:17 AM

Oct 2012

but I don't think I could be in a serious relationship with a right winger of any sort. Likewise, I couldn't deal with someone making such ignorant and idiotic statements.

I can understand politics not being at the core of your relationship, and of course people's politics and ideologies do change over time but as others have mentioned, often times politics do correspond with our world views - of compassion, tolerance, empathy, social justice, and religious beliefs.

I guess it just depends on how big a role politics and current events play in your life, and the impact it has on you and your relationship. How much time do you spend reading about it? How much time do you think about it? Many of us on this site are political junkies, so that would make it doubly difficult to forge a relationship with someone prone to making totally ignorant comments. I can deal with a person not being certain of some particular issue or holding somewhat ambiguous views on certain issues, but willful ignorance and uninformed opinions posed as facts would be a huge turn off for me.

Good luck either way.

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I am shocked that my wife just said this: [View all] Democratopia Oct 2012 OP

please correct her! Cane4Dems Oct 2012 #1

I do and she can't! Democratopia Oct 2012 #54

I'm sorry, but I think your wife has been drinking the koolaid. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #2

Don't you just hate these Hutzpa Oct 2012 #15

Yes, just like "concern" posts. JNelson6563 Oct 2012 #91

Meaning? Are you calling me a liar? Democratopia Oct 2012 #111

Anything is possible. JNelson6563 Oct 2012 #137

Yes it's possible Union Label Oct 2012 #143

politics.... kardonb Oct 2012 #26

I feel sorry for you. BlueDemKev Oct 2012 #3

Don't let her SCliberal091294 Oct 2012 #4

I can't control what she does, nor do I want to! Democratopia Oct 2012 #55

I hate to say it... nobunnyclue Oct 2012 #106

It's insulting to relegate the irrationality as gender-specific. Ineeda Oct 2012 #125

Yes, and I read that there are far more women voting for Obama than men. nt Cal33 Oct 2012 #129

I think you and your wife... Frank Cannon Oct 2012 #5

Did you marry young? MissNostalgia Oct 2012 #6

No, We dated for 5 years! Democratopia Oct 2012 #56

uh oh. took ten years for hubby to start voting dem. kerry and obama twice. seabeyond Oct 2012 #7

My husband, after about 10 years and lots of political discussion, finally saw the lumpy Oct 2012 #32

Thanks. That gives me hope! Democratopia Oct 2012 #57

Pull a Chris Mathews on her: Ask her to define "communist" and watch her sputter. nt DRoseDARs Oct 2012 #8

"Study it out!" LOL. AspenRose Oct 2012 #34

Achhhhh .... dmr Oct 2012 #39

LFMAO That was awesome. My son watched that and was stunned an adult could be that stupid. berni_mccoy Oct 2012 #120

I did and she said he wants to redtribute wealth! Democratopia Oct 2012 #58

Obviously politics aren't central to your relationship. Or they weren't. MADem Oct 2012 #9

I have a good friend married to republican marlakay Oct 2012 #28

I suppose everyone has their own way of relating to others. MADem Oct 2012 #38

Well my wife and I have many things in common, many interests are the same and we Democratopia Oct 2012 #113

It is difficult, because she refuses to talk about it. Democratopia Oct 2012 #59

Your first mistake was marrying Ann Coulter! nt Walk away Oct 2012 #10

Tell her you were planning on taking her on a romantic trip to Europe aint_no_life_nowhere Oct 2012 #11

I am from Europe, so imagine how what she said went down! Democratopia Oct 2012 #60

Tell her the female leader of Teabaggers says Politicalboi Oct 2012 #12

Take some advice from an old guy Pakid Oct 2012 #13

Advice too late! But thanks! Democratopia Oct 2012 #61

Know a good lawyer? demosincebirth Oct 2012 #14

Divorce her. Drunken Irishman Oct 2012 #16

Was thinking it... berni_mccoy Oct 2012 #121

You aren't married to a woman... CoffeeCat Oct 2012 #17

You married Ann Coulter?? Daniel138 Oct 2012 #18

Well Mary Matalin and James Carville have been married 19 years TexasBushwhacker Oct 2012 #19

and Carville has not been relevant in 19 years krawhitham Oct 2012 #44

Only if sex is the substitute for talking politics and they like it rough lunatica Oct 2012 #98

gawd, that must be a freak show... CTyankee Oct 2012 #112

I'll never understand why people marry Republicans Floyd_Gondolli Oct 2012 #20

I would have said the same, but I still loved her! Democratopia Oct 2012 #62

If apologizing for our troops urinating on dead Muslims, whatever she wants to call it, I am guilty Dustlawyer Oct 2012 #21

I appreciate your reply. I agree with what you say, Democratopia Oct 2012 #64

Better put a lock on Faux News or your marriage is going to be in trouble. mnhtnbb Oct 2012 #22

She never watches the news except at her parents! Democratopia Oct 2012 #65

You need to tell her to grow up and separate from her parents' info bubble. ancianita Oct 2012 #136

That's the kind of stuff Recons when they are so seething with hatred they can't see straight. VPStoltz Oct 2012 #23

It is going to be a long night for your marriage on Nov 6th genna Oct 2012 #24

Yes, I want Obama to win for personal reasons too! Democratopia Oct 2012 #66

But Europe isn't Communist . . . rightsideout Oct 2012 #25

Yep. She said she was talking about Greece. Democratopia Oct 2012 #67

What about the UK, France, Spain, Portugal GCP Oct 2012 #87

Unless our country gets better than it has been in the last twelve years, Baitball Blogger Oct 2012 #27

I believe things are going to get better! They have to! Democratopia Oct 2012 #68

Yikes. IrishSean723 Oct 2012 #29

Ugh. svpadgham Oct 2012 #30

LOL nt SunSeeker Oct 2012 #42

what a PERFECT use of that quote! renate Oct 2012 #48

I am so sorry, Democratopia. MrsCorleone Oct 2012 #31

Thank you very much. Democratopia Oct 2012 #69

They've gotten to her. woolldog Oct 2012 #33

It feels like that. I knew zombies were a metaphor! Democratopia Oct 2012 #70

You aren't alone - my husband's a republican AspenRose Oct 2012 #35

You guys should swap! budkin Oct 2012 #52

Thank you. My condolences to you too. Democratopia Oct 2012 #72

you know i hate to be small MFM008 Oct 2012 #36

I am usually like that too. Democratopia Oct 2012 #75

You have a batshit crazy wife. It is no wonder you have gone crazy. For better or for worse. lonestarnot Oct 2012 #37

Thanks! Her whole family are like that. Democratopia Oct 2012 #76

Then you can divorce her family too! nt TexasTowelie Oct 2012 #89

LOL. lonestarnot Oct 2012 #109

I am not divorcing her! But I wish I could divorce her family! Democratopia Oct 2012 #116

Time To Get A New Wife/nt DemocratSinceBirth Oct 2012 #40

welcome to DU--why in the HELL would you marry a republican????? niyad Oct 2012 #41

I appreciate that. Thank you. Democratopia Oct 2012 #77

It is time to find a new wife krawhitham Oct 2012 #43

But I enjoy a challenge! Democratopia Oct 2012 #78

Or working with the challenged? Iris Oct 2012 #94

How long did you know here before you got married? NCLefty Oct 2012 #45

5 years. As I say, of course I knew she was a Republican, Democratopia Oct 2012 #79

Well it sounds like you guys don't talk about politics much NCLefty Oct 2012 #85

I have friends of different political stripes fujiyama Oct 2012 #46

I agree with you, and I am a political junkie myself. Democratopia Oct 2012 #81

I feel your pain, being in a heteropolitical marriage myself Kennah Oct 2012 #47

Funny, I had a similar conversation that went the same way. Democratopia Oct 2012 #82

nice. What else is going on?? cliffordu Oct 2012 #49

My ex wife will vote Romney... issue is my daughters AzNick Oct 2012 #50

Thanks. I just wish we could at least talk, but she thinks all my opinions Democratopia Oct 2012 #83

What does she think hers a based on? Reality? Iris Oct 2012 #93

How the hell can you be married to someone like that? budkin Oct 2012 #51

Part of me feels like that. It is very difficult. Democratopia Oct 2012 #84

Thanks to everyone who replied Democratopia Oct 2012 #53

You should have done a better job vetting your spouse. BlueMan Votes Oct 2012 #63

Agreed WallaceRitchie Oct 2012 #80

I am from Europe and never had experience of Republicans Democratopia Oct 2012 #86

Bingo. GCP Oct 2012 #88

Yes, it is very hard to deal with. They called the Tories the nasty party, Democratopia Oct 2012 #103

Sorry, but going crazy sounds sane in this case. A-Schwarzenegger Oct 2012 #71

Post removed Post removed Oct 2012 #73

Communist Sympathizer alert WallaceRitchie Oct 2012 #74

+1 n/t darkangel218 Oct 2012 #90

Hi darkangel. I keep seeing n/t, but can't figure out what it means. Democratopia Oct 2012 #104

n/t means "no text" in the message, darkangel218 Oct 2012 #119

Ahhh! Thank you. Finally I see! n/t Democratopia Oct 2012 #123

Youre welcome :) n/t darkangel218 Oct 2012 #124

tag n/t Why Syzygy Oct 2012 #92

Do you have children with her? Tough spot for kids. polichick Oct 2012 #95

No, we don't have children. We don't talk about politics often Democratopia Oct 2012 #108

Well, I'd think twice before bringing kids into it... polichick Oct 2012 #142

Your slip is showing, and you aren't fooling anyone scheming daemons Oct 2012 #96

Provide links to back up your allegations. You are a nasty bully. Democratopia Oct 2012 #100

Didn't you say the other day.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2012 #132

You make me sick. Calling me a troll. I challenge anyone to look back at my posts Democratopia Oct 2012 #102

lol.... yeah... you're being abused scheming daemons Oct 2012 #105

You called me a troll and a liar. That is bullying behavior. Democratopia Oct 2012 #107

dude... its the internet scheming daemons Oct 2012 #110

I am being smeared by a bully. If you find any of my posts that suggest I am a troll post them here Democratopia Oct 2012 #114

Do you have anything to prove your allegations? Jakes Progress Oct 2012 #139

This message was self-deleted by its author Jakes Progress Oct 2012 #140

+1 . I'm surprised no obnoxiousdrunk Oct 2012 #127

Noticed.. Why Syzygy Oct 2012 #138

I'd divorce her on the spot. That's just disqualifying crazy talk from someone I have to live with. smorkingapple Oct 2012 #97

Ask her to prove it to you... brooklynite Oct 2012 #99

Thanks. I did ask her that when we argued. She yelled she doesn't need Democratopia Oct 2012 #101

no offense, dude KatyMan Oct 2012 #115

I don't think anyone could love me more than she does. Democratopia Oct 2012 #122

Maybe you should divorce her dgraz007 Oct 2012 #117

I am sorry to hear that. I did hate my wife for a minute. Her family are racist. Democratopia Oct 2012 #126

Try the Soledad Obrien clip treestar Oct 2012 #118

Thank you for your advice. Democratopia Oct 2012 #128

Eeek! She's got ROMNESIA! MatthewStLouis Oct 2012 #130

Anyone who complains about America becoming like Europe... 4_TN_TITANS Oct 2012 #131

What you should do is punish her until after the election Catherine Vincent Oct 2012 #133

This is one of those things that makes life grand Jersey Devil Oct 2012 #134

Tell her to look at it this way: Which is the greater "apology," a diplomatic tour to establish ancianita Oct 2012 #135

Sorry. But I couldn't live with stupid. Jakes Progress Oct 2012 #141

wow. barbtries Oct 2012 #144

I wish America was like Sweden! Take your wife to Sweden Rosa Luxemburg Oct 2012 #145