What Men Say About Women When They Think You've Never Been One [View all]

[redqueen]

http://www.bilerico.com/2012/04/what_men_say_about_women_when_they_think_youve_nev.php#.T5gnp0Qnl30.facebook

I'm a trans man who's been on hormones for about 5 months. My voice is a lot lower than it used to be, and I have a pretty cute, if wily, crop of facial hair going on. As a result, I've started passing as male pretty much all the time. It's a new thing, and it's a lot to digest.

People often ask me if I get treated differently when I'm read as male versus when I used to be read as female. Hmmmmaybe. Really, there are too many subtle wavelengths to any human interaction to know which are directly connected to how people are reading my gender.

But there is one stark and tangible difference in how the world responds to me, and that's the types of things that men (specifically cis-gendered straight men) talk to me about.

Men say horrifying and revolting things to you about women when they think you've never been one.

(More at link.)

I'm hoping, this group being what it is, that I won't be crucified for the writer's failure to stipulate that he is referring to some men, and not all men. There is an exchange about that in the comments there, if one would like to delve into those shallow waters.