Yellow Fever: The Exotification of Asian Women

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13. I've seen this attitude in men

Looking for Hispanic/Latina women. Now admittedly, I am attracted to them as well, but I'm *different!*

Anyway, when I was kicking around grad school, I was the only white guy in a lot of the Hispanic/Latin clubs. I joined them because one of my undergrads was Spanish, and my small undergrad didn't have all the different organizations that my bigger grad school did.

Hispanic Heritage Month was coming up, and I wanted to do some research on famous Hispanic/Latin women to see if maybe we could turn it into a discussion/exhibit (we had several different events during the whole month). I Infoseeked (Google wasn't around yet) Latin Women and found this Latin Women Listserv, which was full of men who just knew that American women had been ruined by society, and to find their dream, submissive - and of course, much younger - dream wife, they had to go south of the border. Pretty far south - Colombia was the hot spot then (and probably still is). Well, being the wise-ass, know-it-all 20-something with too much time on my hands, I joined and for the most part trolled, but I got to know them all pretty well. It was gratifying that the vast majority of men who were successful were the kinds who didn't treat their women as property and were interested in the culture and weren't looking for a submissive wife in the first place, and it was aggravating that the other guys would dismiss the successful ones' advice and happiness because they wouldn't treat their wives as property, or possibly they found a H/L woman either born in America or who had been in the country for a while (they were seen as "ruined" because they had been exposed to American women who filled their heads with nonsense). Many of them said they honestly didn't care about the culture and weren't going to learn the language past being able to order a beer and ask for the bathroom - all they wanted was the woman that they "deserved."

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