History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: Fucking creeps [View all]MadrasT
(7,237 posts)This is what I can't get past.
And for me, it isn't due to unfamiliarity with the "lifestyle". I was an active member of the BDSM community for a decade. I have attended/participated in the big famous (in some circles) multi-day conventions, had a wallet full of membership cards to the "dungeons" in the big cities, and had an active "scene life". I have seen and done things that would require a real-life fainting couch for some people to even contemplate, and at the time, was completely OK with it.
There is a saying in the community that YKINMK which equals "Your Kink Is Not My Kink" (but it's OK) and that was my mantra for a very long time. (Because who was I to judge someone else's fantasy life?)
But I see it through a different lens now, my lens is more macro (how does this affect the world, not just me-me-me-me)... and I am not OK with fetishizing rape. There was no single event that led to this shift, I didn't have a bad experience or anything... it was just a gradual shift of perspective over time.