How to spot a misogynist

[MadrasT]

75. Hmmmmm

your man seems to be heavily immersed in the conditioned roles of gender defining masculinity and femininity, man/woman, which is an odd place for you to sit seeing who you are.

It is very odd. It took him 6 months to decide if he could even have a relationship with someone who biologically is, and looks like, a woman but identifies as "nongendered"... because somehow he is really attached to needing a woman to express and embody "the feminine" sometimes.

We talk about gender, gender identity, and gender roles all the time.

If the relationship doesn't work out, he sure has learned a lot about gender anyway, LOL.

I really like him and he is a solid progressive with a good heart. So we just keep talking about it.

My last boyfriend also identified as "nongendered" so we were like peas in a pod. Gender and gender roles never came up. That was nice in one way, but almost too comfortable because my ideas about gender were never challenged and I never had to think about it at all.

Not sure which is better. It is what it is, I guess.