I used to think people in this group exaggerated the level of misogyny on this site...

[KitSileya]

171. That's too bad.

I am lying in bed, not getting to sleep because I was composing a rather... forceful... rant about how a lot of liberals use prude as a pejorative when it is part of freedom of choice to choose not to have sex as much as to choose to have sex without guilt in either case. Their use of prude and prudishness is exactly the same as the conservatives' use of 'sl#t' - it is meant to make someone feel bad about their sexual choices.

When we teach young kids to prevent sexual abuse, we teach them that they have the right to choose who touches them and looks at them, and we teach them that no one have the right to force them to touch or look at anybody else's genitals. Likewise, we have the right not to have to see nude people if we don't want to. We're not prudes if we do not want to see someone suddenly undress in a mall, or a couple get up on stage during a concert so that they can 'f#ck for forrest' as a protest against environmental exploitation. There are places where we should be able to have reasonable expectations with regards to nudity, porn and sexual talk. Asking people to comply with those boundaries is not prudishness.

How many of us haven't experienced having our boundaries trampled on and denied? How many of us are sexual abuse and/ or rape survivors? If we tell people where our boundaries are, on a Democratic forum, shouldn't we be able to expect that instead of doubling down on their abuse, they listen to us?