The cudgel doesn't always have to be brandished as explicitly as it was by seabeyond's attacker, because it's always there, and the threat is understood on a gut level even when the cudgel is hidden away.
And a woman lives under that threat all the time.
Am I getting the picture right? Because I'm dumb and I'm slow and I'm all "gosh, really?" about the shit that women are put through. But sometimes even I start to get the picture. And when I do start to get the picture, what I see is infuriating.