I raised two boys, they are adults now and very secure in who they are. It was easier for them and for me since we were a musical family and they are professional musicians. They are cut a lot of slack as far as being able to access and use a full pallet of colors and emotions. Still, the usual social stuff was the same.
I think boys, men are absolutely victims of the patriarchy. I think it can be defined in many more ways than we use it here defining it for ourselves. I think men stop themselves from growing into the humans with vast emotional experiences they can have because somewhere along the line, a long long time ago, manliness became the only way to be. Anything else was to be less. Could have been a good reason for it at that time but we would have to figure out when that was 
Sometimes I wonder if this is why, it seems to me, that so many more men than women are so homophobic as well as misogynists. Their emotional well being was hijacked by the same patriarchy that stiffles and abuses women. I do not have anything to back that up, just personal experience.
Just a few thoughts.
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